When in marriage , how old is too old ?

Disclaimer: Feminist post ahead :)


When my mother got married at 20, my grandmother thought that she was very old to get married and if she doesn't get married right away, she may remain a spinster through out. This kind of thought is totally expected from a woman who got married before she started even menstruating . For my generation, parents set the target of 25 for girls to get married. Now that I am approaching 30 and am still single , this question really makes me think ...in marriage, how old is really too old ?

Have the boat sailed for me ? I am really too old for all the cute guys out there? Would I never get married ? Do I have to die alone now ? Or do I have to settle with some fat bald smelly 40 year old someone ?

Have I really wasted the precious years of my life concentrating on my career and having fun with my friends ? But what is life without any aim or without any fun ? But then does it mean that I have to pay a cost for this ? Does it mean I won't get anyone anymore?

When I look around I see all my friends married...most of them even having babies . Even girls much younger than me are getting married and I can see the look in their eyes when they hear that I am still not married. Does it mean that everyone around me knew it from before that you need to settle down as soon as possible or does it mean that I am the only fool around who was wasting time ?

But then I took a real close look at these girls, these so called happily married girls with their great hubbies and cute kids and ask myself "Are they really happy?" . A friend of mine who is getting married in two weeks said she kinda hated her fiance because she had to miss her onsite opportunity to get married.....the opportunity  for which she has waited for years and have worked so hard! Another friend of mine who is getting married in six months to her long term boyfriend is upset with her bad relationship with her in-laws ! Another friend of mine who is getting married in four months is upset because she had to leave her job,her family, her country,her friends to stay with her husband abroad. Putting your life on stake......what if it's not worth that much ? How happy these young brides are ? Are they really happy ? Would their marriage last ?Is their life really filled with all golds and jewels and am I missing out a lot ?

Ya I agree they have a guy to love and support them at the end of a hard day.But does love remains ? Does it really grows with time as it happens in fairy tales where they say happily lived ever after ? Or is ever after just a myth to trap young women into marriage vows ? Does all the love vanishes and a couple literally tolerates each other after a span of time ? So ,should a woman never get married at all ? Or is there a perfect time when she can ? May be after she attains a satisfying position in her career and is no more confused with her decisions in life, she can think of marriage . Because as far as I know it takes a lot of mental work and stability to make a marriage work provided you don't end up marrying a moron. But then who needs a man when you have great friends to share your life with !!!