Disclaimer: Feminist post ahead :)
Being born as a female in India, does it mean that I should not have any aspirations in my life? Since I was born as a girl am I assumed to have less IQ than a guy? If no, then why can’t a girl have aspirations? Well, one would argue that in modern India we do let our girls to go for higher studies, get a job and wear western clothes. But is it just enough? What if she wants to go for some more higher studies after marriage? What if she deserves it? What if she gets an onsite opportunity and her husband doesn’t and she wants to go? Then, what? Basically, if she is more talented or intelligent or smart than her husband, she should not get the opportunity, right? Why on earth? Does it harm your male ego?
First of all, why is marriage a mandate for girls in India? What if she is well qualified and earns enough to sustain herself and do not wish to settle down with anyone less than the love of her life? Why is she being forced? As if girls are born with the sole motive that she should study so that one day she can get to be the wife of someone? Is that the only motive in life? Should she just be a housekeeper, a sex partner, a care taker of the family who is at the mercy of the male members? Why do all the people keep bugging you about marriage? Why am I supposed to feel ashamed or sad that I am career wise successful and still not married because I did not meet that special someone? Why should I arrange up a guy and get married or in short say yes for arranged marriage?
If a guy opts to go for higher studies or onsite after marriage, he can….rather he is considered to be very successful in life. Even in that case, women have to adjust……she either has to leave her job to accompany her husband or she should opt to stay alone. Why is it the vice versa for women? Why can’t men accept women growing or leave his job to be with her or take care of the family alone in her absence?
Being a girl, I feel it so disturbing that I need to choose between my personal life and professional life? Why can’t I have both? What is it with the male ego thing that we girls need to suffer? I was born as a girl and I am sorry to say but I am better than many guys as far as my analytical and managerial skills are concerned. So, should I be punished for it? How come a guy with similar or may be lower capabilities can have a great career and I should end up in someone’s kitchen and bedroom or just have a low profile professional life?
My culinary skills should be perfect or else he’ll be offended, the water should be perfectly warm for him to bath, the tea should be ready when he enters the house………..does my analytical skill be put to no better use than this? Why can’t I expect the same things from him? Why should I have to leave my family and stay with his parents and spend my life in being the perfect housekeeper than being at the top managerial ranks of some multinational company? Why do his parents have so much expectation from me whereas my parents don’t have any such expectations from him? For god’s sake, I want to be your daughter in law not some hi class housekeeper!
A girl leaves her family, her career, her life for a guy? Why? Why can’t a guy do the same? She is physically weaker than you not intellectually. Why don’t you take care of the family or at least share her work? Why can’t you let her advance like other developed countries allow their women to advance? Why do you keep saying to a girl that one day her prince charming will come and take care of her? What if she can take care of herself and the prince charming? Why is she expected to be dumb? Or at least dumber than her husband? Why is she treated as a different class of human beings? Is it a crime to be a smart, career oriented girl in India?
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